Boundaries.....

Had to set some boundaries yesterday, this does not come easy for me. I like to live in a happy little world where everything is pretty, nice, and peaceful but the reality is that we don't really live in that world. And we probably wont live in that kind of world on earth. So until we get to heaven we have to set some boundaries for our own sanity and health.

I deal with a person who is Narcissistic, or has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). If you would like to read more about Narcissism here is a good link to get your started. This is probably one of the most difficult things in my entire life that I have faced. But what I have learned though this is, I am not alone. There are many many people who have to deal with even live with someone with NPD everday. And a lot of them are with their mothers as well. Some not to the extent as mine but still difficult just the same.

There are several good things about dealing with a difficult person.

1. You learn you dont want to be anything like them. And it will make you a better mother, wife, teacher, etc. and you will break the cycle of abuse it will end with you.

2. You can help others who are dealing with the same type things.

3. You depend on the Lord more because you learn He is really the only one who can change anything anyway.

So on my day of setting boundaries I was watching American Idol and saw Kris Allen singing one of "Our Songs". No its not me and mel's song but it me and the Lord's song, He gave me this a few years ago after another difficult day I was having, it brought tears to my eyes once again but its a great song! And the Lord is so sweet!

I found it on youtube so check it out!

Blessings all,
Lisa